10 Signs She’s Just Using You
1. She Only Calls When She Needs Something
Why It Matters: If she only reaches out when she needs a favor, money, or help but never just to check in or spend time with you, she’s not genuinely interested in you—she’s interested in what you can do for her.
Red Flag: She disappears when she doesn’t need anything but suddenly becomes sweet when she does.
Fix It: Stop being at her beck and call. If she only contacts you when she wants something, cut off the supply.
2. She Never Invests in You
Why It Matters: Relationships should be two-sided. If you’re always the one texting first, making plans, and putting in the effort while she just goes along with it, she’s taking you for granted.
Red Flag: If you stopped making the effort, would she still be there? If the answer is no, she was never truly into you.
Fix It: Match her energy—if she’s not investing in you, stop investing in her.
3. She’s Always Asking for Favors
Why It Matters: If she treats you like her personal handyman, chauffeur, or ATM but never reciprocates when you need something, she sees you as a resource, not a priority.
Example: She expects you to help her move, fix her car, or run errands, but if you ask for anything, she’s suddenly “too busy.”
Fix It: Start saying no. A woman who values you won’t just use you for what you can provide.
4. She Won’t Commit but Won’t Let You Go
Why It Matters: She avoids labels, keeps things vague, and won’t fully commit—but she still expects your attention, gets jealous when you talk to other women, and won’t let you move on.
Red Flag: She’s keeping you as an option while looking for something “better.”
Fix It: If she won’t commit, stop treating her like a girlfriend. Either she steps up, or you move on.
5. She Flirts with Other Guys
Why It Matters: If she openly flirts with other men but expects your loyalty and attention, she doesn’t respect you. A woman who truly values you won’t play games or make you feel like an option.
Example: She acts single when you’re not around but expects you to treat her like she’s special.
Fix It: Set boundaries. If she won’t respect the relationship, she’s not worth your time.
6. She’s Obsessed with Money & Gifts
Why It Matters: If she only gets excited when you’re spending money on her—expensive gifts, fancy dinners, or paid trips—she’s not in it for the connection. She’s in it for the perks.
Red Flag: She never treats you to anything, never splits the bill, and her interest drops when you stop spending.
Fix It: Stop paying for everything. If she loses interest when the money stops, she was never truly interested in you.
7. She Cancels on You but Always Has Time for Others
Why It Matters: If she’s always “too busy” to see you but has plenty of time for her friends, parties, and other guys, she’s making it clear that you’re not a priority.
Example: She constantly bails on your plans but you see her posting about going out with friends.
Fix It: Stop making time for people who won’t make time for you. If she wanted to see you, she would.
8. She Only Talks About Herself (Never Asks About You)
Why It Matters: If every conversation revolves around her—her problems, her goals, her life—and she never asks about you, she’s not invested in who you are.
Red Flag: She only reaches out to vent, complain, or seek validation but never checks in on your life.
Fix It: Pay attention to how she treats your conversations. If she never asks about you, she doesn’t truly care.
9. She Gets Mad When You Stop Giving
Why It Matters: If she flips out, guilt-trips you, or ghosts you the moment you stop giving her money, attention, or effort, she was never interested in you—only what she was getting from you.
Example: You stop paying for dinners, driving her around, or helping with favors, and suddenly, she’s distant or angry.
Fix It: Walk away. A woman who truly values you will appreciate you for who you are, not just what you provide.
10. She Disappears When You Need Her
Why It Matters: If she expects you to be there for her but is nowhere to be found when you need support, she’s not in it for the right reasons. A real connection is mutual.
Red Flag: She has a million excuses when you need her help, but she expects you to drop everything for her.
Fix It: Stop giving to people who don’t give back. The right woman will support you, not just take from you.
